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How to Stop Being "Good"
for Everyone and Start Choosing Yourself
14-day program
…and get 5 free transformational practices
You can spend years trying to change your life. Changing men. Changing jobs. Changing your surroundings. Changing your habits. But if the same psychological patterns keep running underneath — the result is almost always the same
This 14-day program helps you see these patterns, understand where they came from and gradually begin to break free from them
This 14-day program helps you see these patterns, understand where they came from and gradually begin to break free from them
THE PATTERN RESET™
Without guilt — and while enjoying your choice
See what’s inside the course
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The People-Pleaser
Inside: a video lesson where you’ll learn why you say yes out of fear, where that fear came from, and how to finally say no without guilt or conflict — plus The No-Guilt Refusal Formula, a simple 3-step way to do exactly that
For when you say yes and mean no — and end up feeling resentful, exhausted, and unheard
Practice 01
The Overthinker
Inside: a video lesson where you’ll learn how racing thoughts turn into your own affirmations and beliefs, and how they slowly drain and exhaust you — plus two techniques to break the loop the moment it starts and finally stop replaying negative thoughts in your head
For when your mind won’t stop racing — replaying the same conversation until it turns into anxiety and stress
Practice 02
The Self-Critic
Inside: a video lesson where you’ll learn how your inner critic quietly takes away your self-worth and confidence — plus a practice to turn that voice into one that supports and inspires you, so you can start believing in yourself again
For the voice that’s never satisfied, no matter what you do
Practice 03
Anchoring
Inside: a video lesson where you'll learn what anchoring is and how it works, the difference between positive and negative anchoring, and the different ways to anchor a man so he associates you with pleasure and connection
For when you want him to feel drawn to you, even when you're not in the room
Practice 04
Long-Term Relationships
Inside: a video lesson where you'll learn how to become closer in long-term relationships and how to reignite the passion that's faded over time
For when the passion you used to have with him has quietly disappeared, and you don't know why
Practice 05
You Might Recognize Yourself Here…
You keep ending up in similar relationships
You constantly analyze conversations, texts and your own actions
You notice that other people’s opinions affect you more than you wish they did
You snap at the people close to you over small things and then don’t understand why you reacted that way
You don’t understand why you keep returning to the same situations
No matter how hard you try to change things, life keeps bringing you back to the same patterns
You constantly analyze conversations, texts and your own actions
You notice that other people’s opinions affect you more than you wish they did
You snap at the people close to you over small things and then don’t understand why you reacted that way
You don’t understand why you keep returning to the same situations
No matter how hard you try to change things, life keeps bringing you back to the same patterns
What’s Inside
Why Knowledge Alone Is Not Enough
Most people try to change the symptoms. They work on confidence. Self-esteem. Relationships. Habits. But the real cause runs deeper. As long as the hidden pattern stays the same, life keeps repeating the same situations
That is why this program does not start with change. It starts with understanding
That is why this program does not start with change. It starts with understanding
You’ll see how the same relationship pattern keeps repeating — different people, same outcome — even when you promise yourself every time that this time will be different
Day 1.
Why You Keep Ending Up in Similar Relationships
Why You Keep Ending Up in Similar Relationships
You’ll understand how your body and nervous system make decisions before your conscious mind does — and why you sometimes react in ways you don’t even recognize
Day 2.
Why Your Nervous System Decides Before You Do
Why Your Nervous System Decides Before You Do
You’ll notice how your inner dialogue shapes your decisions, self-worth and relationships — even when you don’t realize it’s happening
Day 3.
The Voice That Runs Your Life
The Voice That Runs Your Life
You’ll uncover your core emotional triggers and understand why certain words or actions from others cause such a strong reaction in you
Day 4.
Why Some Situations Hurt You More Than Others
Why Some Situations Hurt You More Than Others
You’ll identify the beliefs that have been limiting your life for years and learn how to stop living by someone else’s script
Day 5.
The Beliefs That Keep You Stuck
The Beliefs That Keep You Stuck
You’ll see the hidden fears behind most of your choices and understand why they keep making you choose everyone but yourself
Day 6.
The Fears That Drive Your Decisions
The Fears That Drive Your Decisions
You’ll understand why your mind keeps replaying the same conversations and situations — and how to finally quiet the loop
Day 7.
Why You Can’t Stop Overthinking
Why You Can’t Stop Overthinking
You’ll understand why other people’s opinions have such a strong hold on your mood, your decisions and your sense of self-worth
Day 8.
The People-Pleasing Trap
The People-Pleasing Trap
Bringing together everything from the days before, you’ll see the full picture: the same pattern shows up in your relationships, your decisions, and your everyday situations — not just your relationships
Day 9.
The Situations You Keep Living Out Again and Again
The Situations You Keep Living Out Again and Again
You’ll see the role you automatically play around other people and understand why it stopped reflecting who you really are a long time ago
Day 10.
The Mask You Wear Every Day
The Mask You Wear Every Day
You’ll understand what your need to control everything is actually taking from you — and why control never brings real peace
Day 11.
The Real Cost of Constant Control
The Real Cost of Constant Control
You’ll learn to tell the difference between your real desires and other people’s expectations — and start trusting your own inner voice again
Day 12.
Why You Stopped Listening to Yourself
Why You Stopped Listening to Yourself
You’ll see yourself without fear, anxiety, the need to please everyone and the constant fight for love, approval or safety
Day 13.
Who You Are Without Your Patterns
Who You Are Without Your Patterns
You'll learn how to notice the moment an old pattern starts creeping back in, and exactly what to do so you don't slide back into it a month from now
Day 14.
How to Keep This Change
How to Keep This Change
🔧 Tool:
A short “repetition map” exercise — list 3 relationships and find the moment where they all followed the same script
A short “repetition map” exercise — list 3 relationships and find the moment where they all followed the same script
🔧 Tool:
a simple nervous system regulation technique you can use the moment a trigger hits — you’ll come back to it throughout the program
a simple nervous system regulation technique you can use the moment a trigger hits — you’ll come back to it throughout the program
🔧 Tool:
a “catch the voice” exercise — write down 5 things your inner voice said today and trace where each one came from
a “catch the voice” exercise — write down 5 things your inner voice said today and trace where each one came from
🔧 Tool:
use the regulation technique from Day 2 the next time a trigger hits — and notice what shifts
use the regulation technique from Day 2 the next time a trigger hits — and notice what shifts
🔧 Tool:
a belief rewrite — swap one limiting belief for a more honest, more accurate one
a belief rewrite — swap one limiting belief for a more honest, more accurate one
🔧 Tool:
a quick “decision or fear?” checklist — 3 questions to ask before you decide
a quick “decision or fear?” checklist — 3 questions to ask before you decide
🔧 Tool:
a “stop point” technique — a concrete way to interrupt the loop the moment it starts
a “stop point” technique — a concrete way to interrupt the loop the moment it starts
🔧 Tool:
a “my opinion / their opinion” exercise to run through before making a decision
a “my opinion / their opinion” exercise to run through before making a decision
🔧 Tool:
a final pattern map — connect trigger → inner voice → fear → reaction into one simple chain
a final pattern map — connect trigger → inner voice → fear → reaction into one simple chain
🔧 Tool:
a “no mask for 10 minutes” practice — show up a little more honestly in one real situation today
a “no mask for 10 minutes” practice — show up a little more honestly in one real situation today
🔧 Tool:
a “let go of one thing” practice — pick one small situation today and consciously don’t step in
a “let go of one thing” practice — pick one small situation today and consciously don’t step in
🔧 Tool:
a daily question to ask yourself before bed — “What do I want, not what’s expected of me?”
a daily question to ask yourself before bed — “What do I want, not what’s expected of me?”
🔧 Tool:
a visualization/writing practice — describe one day in the life of the version of you without these patterns
a visualization/writing practice — describe one day in the life of the version of you without these patterns
🔧 Tool:
your personal “return plan” — 3 signs that tell you a pattern is reactivating, and one action for each
your personal “return plan” — 3 signs that tell you a pattern is reactivating, and one action for each
10 Practices You’ll Actually Use
The Repetition Map — see the pattern across your last 3 relationships
The Nervous System Reset — a technique you’ll return to on Day 1 and every day after
Catch the Voice — trace your inner critic back to where it started
Decision or Fear? — a 3-question check before every hard choice
The Stop Point — interrupt the loop before it spirals
The Pattern Map — connect trigger → voice → fear → reaction in one chart
No Mask for 10 Minutes — a daily practice in showing up honestly
Let Go of One Thing — a small daily act that rebuilds trust in yourself
Your Return Plan — the exact steps to catch yourself before you slide back
The Evening Question — what do I want, not what’s expected of me
Why This Program Works
TODAY ONLY: 99$
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You will not be learning to think positively. You will not be forcing yourself to feel differently. You will not get another list of motivational tips
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Instead you will see exactly which psychological patterns have been quietly running your decisions, relationships and reactions
for years
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That is why the change
goes deeper — and stays
with you
01
After These 14 Days You Will…
Start noticing the thoughts and reactions that used to control you automatically — and learn to shift them the moment they appear
02
Stop ending up in the same situations and emotional traps over and over again
03
Learn to interrupt automatic negative reactions and understand why you react the way you do
04
Stop endlessly replaying conversations, messages and past situations
in your head
05
• 10 named practices you’ll use throughout the program — not abstract advice, but specific techniques like The Repetition Map, The Stop Point, and Your Return Plan
• Instant access to the full course after payment
- 6 months of access
• Instant access to the full course after payment
- 14 video lessons on the GetCourse platform
Each lesson follows a simple 3-part structure:
🎥 Watch — a focused video lesson that walks you through the pattern for that day
✍️ Reflect — a guided reflection question to help you see how this pattern shows up in your own life
🎯 Practice — a practical exercise in your personal workbook to start shifting it
Real change happens after the lessons, when life puts you back into familiar situations
That’s why, after the program, you’ll receive a 30-day guided workbook
It will help you catch yourself when you start to
Its purpose is to help you stop yourself before you fall back into your old way of living
That’s why, after the program, you’ll receive a 30-day guided workbook
It will help you catch yourself when you start to
- put yourself last again
- tolerate things that don’t feel right
- try to please everyone
- doubt yourself
- choose what hurts you all over again
Its purpose is to help you stop yourself before you fall back into your old way of living
Make decisions more easily — without second-guessing yourself or constantly seeking outside validation
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Start building relationships with yourself and others from a place of inner worth — not from a need to earn love, approval or safety
What You Get
🎁 BONUS: SO YOU DON’T FALL BACK INTO YOUR OLD LIFE A MONTH FROM NOW
The Pattern Reset™
$55
EXCLUSIVE BONUS:
🎁 BONUS :
A Personal Workbook For Daily Reflection & Practice
A Personal Workbook For Daily Reflection & Practice
🎁 BONUS: 5 FREE PRACTICES FOR YOUR TRANSFORMATION
1. The People-Pleaser — say no without guilt
2. The Overthinker — stop the racing thoughts
3. The Self-Critic — quiet the inner voice
4. Anchoring — create deep connection through scent, touch and voice
5. Long-Term Relationships — reignite the passion
1. The People-Pleaser — say no without guilt
2. The Overthinker — stop the racing thoughts
3. The Self-Critic — quiet the inner voice
4. Anchoring — create deep connection through scent, touch and voice
5. Long-Term Relationships — reignite the passion
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So you never have to go back to the version of yourself who started this course
What women say
I’m Viktoria Solar — Psychologist & Body Care Coach.
Over 10 years as a psychologist and 15 years in body and movement work, I’ve coached 2,000+ women worldwide. I don’t teach positive thinking, and I don’t give advice like ‘just stop reacting that way.' I help you see where the reaction came from — in your mind and your body — because the patterns that run your life live in both, not just the mind.
About the author
Your questions — answered
I’m a psychologist with over 10 years of experience. In that time, I’ve helped more than 2,000 women around the world. I hold a degree in psychology and am a certified NLP Master Practitioner. I work with how our inner state shows up in the body — tension, anxiety, the habit of shrinking — and I help women express outwardly exactly what they want to communicate, through the practices and techniques you’ll go through inside this course. This program brings together my knowledge of psychology, body-based therapy, and years of practice with women from different countries.
The Pattern Reset™ is a structured framework plus daily practice for working with your feelings, emotions, and body. It’s not a replacement for therapy. If you’re going through an acute episode of depression or another serious condition, it’s a good idea to also work with a licensed professional — this program works well alongside therapy, as a complement to it.
No. The program is designed so that, day by day, you gradually start to see your patterns — and immediately get clarity on what to replace them with. You don’t just learn about a pattern in theory — you start noticing it in your everyday life and get concrete tools: how to anchor yourself into a new state, how to work with an emotion in the moment. The most important part is returning to the material regularly and reminding yourself what to do exactly when you notice a scenario repeating — when you catch yourself doing the same things you’ve wanted to stop doing.
Each lesson is a practical video, an exercise in your workbook, and a follow-up task — about 15 to 30 minutes total. If you miss a day, just pick up where you left off. Access lasts 6 months, so you can move at your own pace.
14 video lessons on the platform, a practical exercise after each day, a personal workbook of more than 40 pages with daily reflection prompts, 6 months of access, available on any device.
Most programs work with the symptom — confidence, self-esteem, relationships. This one works at the level of the cause: as long as the pattern stays the same, life keeps repeating the same situations. This isn’t theory without practice — every day involves real work with your body, your emotions, and your reactions, not just a list of advice.
After these 14 days, you’ll start noticing the thoughts and reactions that used to run you on autopilot — and learn to shift them in the moment they appear. You’ll stop falling into the same situations and emotional traps over and over. You’ll learn to interrupt automatic negative reactions and understand why you react the way you do. You’ll stop endlessly replaying past conversations, messages, and situations in your head. You’ll make decisions with more confidence — without constant second-guessing or seeking approval from others. You’ll start building your relationship with yourself and others from a sense of your own worth — not from a need to earn love, approval, or safety.
If the program isn't the right fit for you, you can request a refund within 48 hours of purchase, as long as you haven't gone through more than 20% of the lessons. Just email us at support@viktoriasolar.com and we'll take care of it
